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Secret, teen coded messages may be online danger signs. Perhaps parents need to go back to school and learn the new language! The Daily Mail recently reported, that, ‘these coded messages may be the first clue that their children are self-harming, being bullied or groomed online, or even driven to suicide.
Teenagers and predators alike are using their own language and acronyms on Facebook and other social networking sites to conceal the true nature of their conversations. Among the danger signs are ‘Dirl’, meaning ‘die in real life’ and used by cyber-bullies to urge victims to kill themselves, and ‘Gnoc’ – ‘getting naked on camera’ – used to lure young people into getting undressed.
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The teenagers’ online lexicon revealed:
Bbp: Banned by parents.
Clavicle: Those suffering from eating disorders might use this to search for pictures of people who are very thin, as a prominent clavicle can be seen as a measure of thinness.
#cutfor: Hashtag used to promote self-harm in the name of particular celebrities. #cutforJustinBieber trended in 2013.
Dirl: Die in real life, a phrase which may be used to upset someone
Gcad: Get cancer and die.
Gnoc: Get naked on camera, used to groom young people or as a form of ‘sexting’.
Gokid: Got observers, keep it decent.
Foad: F*** off and die.
Fugly: F****** ugly.
Hduw2bb: Hello do you want to be buddies? Possible interaction with a stranger.
Idttu: I don’t talk to you. Used to ostracise another person online.
Ih8p: I hate parents.
IHML: I hate my life.
Iw2mu: I want to meet you. Suggests possible meet-up with a stranger.
Jlma: Just leave me alone.
Kpc: Keeping parents clueless.
Lggd: Let’s go get drunk.
Miw: Mum is watching.
Mmas: Meet me after school.
Mos: Mum over shoulder.
Np4np: Naked pic for naked pic. Offering to swap pornographic pictures with others online.
Oreo: Racist slang for a black person who is ‘trying to be white’.
Our x: Our secret, used by abusers to encourage victims not to speak out.
Pcrs: Parents can read slang
Pos/Pob: Parent over shoulder or parent over back.
Taw: Teachers are watching.’
While there is a fair bit of ‘tongue in cheek’ in this article it comes close to belief!! Global Trend News reports on its website that: ‘The American Psychiatric Association (APA) has officially confirmed what many people thought all along: taking ‘selfies’ is a mental disorder.
The APA made this classification during its annual board of directors meeting in Chicago. The disorder is called selfitis, and is defined as the obsessive compulsive desire to take photos of one’s self and post them on social media as a way to make up for the lack of self-esteem and to fill a gap in intimacy.
APA said there are three levels of the disorder:
- Borderline selfitis : taking photos of one’s self at least three times a day but not posting them on social media
- Acute selfitis: taking photos of one’s self at least three times a day and posting each of the photos on social media
- Chronic selfitis: Uncontrollable urge to take photos of one’s self round the clock and posting the photos on social media more than six times a day
According to the APA, while there is currently no cure for the disorder, temporary treatment is available through Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). The other good news is that CBT is covered under Obamacare.’ read Medicare, I think, if you are an Australian or the NHS if you are in the UK!
Whisper is an app that combines our fascination with secrets and mystery with the juicy salaciousness of gossip. All done anonymously. It is a teen’s dream! And it has recently exploded in its use by university students and teens. Essentially, it is a smartphone app that allows users to share secrets anonymously. You type in a message and the app finds a matching image and turns your secret into a ‘cool’ meme. Strangers can anonymously “like” or leave comments on your unleashed secrets. The creepy thing is that strangers can and do respond to you. To test it, I sent out an image with this anonymous ‘secret’: ‘I’m 15, and I am lonely’, and within seconds I received 2 responses that I will not print here!
Teens also need to remember that this is a start-up company. It is in its youth. While it might say you are anonymous, all your messages are stored against your IP address and just like Surprise, surprise, Snapchat Pics Don’t Delete!, Whisper messages, could come back to haunt you.
I am sure that there are fun and even therapeutic ways that this app could be used but in my experience, sadly, there are also mean, nasty and sinister ways. Beware!
Parents would be wise to keep an eye on the apps their tweens and teens are using on their ipods and smart phones. Kik allows free text and pic sending services between those who have downloaded the app on their phone or ipod. The danger of the ipod is often overlooked by parents as they don’t realize that once it is coupled with a wi fi connection an ipod has many of the capabilities of a phone.
Late last year the disappearance of Sydney teenager Krystal Muhieddine, was connected to her use of the Kik app. She left her house early on Tuesday morning in a car with a stranger before being found in country Victoria on Friday.
The Sydney Morning Herald reported that, ‘Krystal’s parents did not allow their children to use social media in the house, but Mrs Muhieddine said she believed her 14-year-old daughter had been using Kik to communicate with the person with whom she left.’
With the invasion of mums, dads and aunties on Facebook tweens and teens are looking for a bit of privacy. Kik has become a very popular app, especially for young adults and teens to be able to communicate with each other. It is free and private.
Parents need to be proactive. You’ve got to have the conversation and you’ve got to be willing to have your kids be angry with you. Parents should make sure that they know what every app on their child’s phone does and if they don’t know, delete it.
We love sharing photos of our children online. But what are the risks? It is unlikely, that children would be identified and tracked down by someone sinister though we should make sure that they are not wearing anything that might identify where they go to school or where they live. We should make sure the geo tagging function on our phones are cameras is switched off.
But is not this that is the main issue – for me I always wonder where those pics end up? On whose computer, in which country and for what purpose? There are many creepy answers that I need not specify. Enough to say, think carefully - what might seem an innocent ‘baby in the bath’ pic very sadly may end up being used for something very different and no one wants this. So think before you post, is it an appropriate photo, will my teenager thank me for it, and are my privacy settings as tight as they need to be?
Another anonymous app providing a social messaging board for anyone to post anything! You can imagine how this could be used once it gets into the hands of some tweens and teens. Not nice!
The app is free and it clearly indicates that it is not to be used by anyone under the age of 17. BE WARNED