How good is it when you come across teenagers who show an awareness of some of the horrors of social media and are dismissive of some of these sites. This post is by 15 year old, Sami Cuff. Sami, certainly restores my faith and I hope yours, in teens as being mostly sensible, levelheaded young people. We adults can sometimes be guilty of being a bit cranky with them when we hear of the many risky things they do so I intend to post a series of teen and tween written posts over the next few weeks just to make your heart sing! You can also use them as great conversation starters with your teens and tweens.
A big thank you goes to 15yo Sami Cuff for her brilliant first hand insight and “wake up and realise” blog into to the reasons behind why her peers are sucked into using Ask.Fm.
Today, a teenager’s life revolves around the way others view them. How can I be so sure? Because I am one. I am in the midst of my teen years and I have to admit, I can get sucked in to believing that the universe revolves around me.
Ask.Fm is the new way to tell/ask people anonymously anything you want, from a nice compliment to hate that can drive people into terrible places. I’m sure most teens are familiar with it or maybe even have one. I made one but quickly gave up on it. I personally hate it.
Not only does it clog up your news feed on Facebook, but it’s extremely dangerous to young teens self esteem. Luckily, I haven’t received hate on it but I am familiar with people who have, and sometimes it wasn’t just hate. A girl I know was receiving sexual requests and stories on hers.
The only positive reason I can see for Ask.Fm is to receive nice compliments from ‘anon’ which will boost your low self esteem for about 2 minutes at the most. All us compliment-craving teens want, is to be accepted and feel good about ourselves. But when this isn’t what we receive, we believe the lies that are being posted. And we keep going back to it, searching for new ways to get people to compliment us. It makes us get addicted with the buzz off compliments if they come our way and start ‘subtly’ begging other to ask stuff, just to get the attention that they haven’t had for a few hours – and its really annoying and pathetic.
We all need to wake up and realise there is more to life than sitting behind a computer abusing someone, or wanting to receive compliments. It’s like it’s the only way that any of us can be happy these days! Its ridiculous and pathetic!
What happened to going up to someone in person and complimenting them? And if you think about it, you wouldn’t go up to someone in public and say “Tell me I’m beautiful”. Life isn’t about being the prettiest or the most popular kid in school. If you do want ways to feel good about yourself, why not do something nice for someone else?
Instead of hounding them to tell you that your pretty, why not do something nice for them, just out of the blue?